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There are memes going around that place the blame for the laziness of this generation's children on their parents. It's true. Children don't have poor behavior and poor work ethic because they are just bad people, it's because they have been trained to be that way. Bad parents. Understand, if you are one of these bad parents, it is not a statement about your worth as a human being. It is a statement that denotes that your parenting attempts have failed. If it was a statement of work, then the quote would be "bad people as parents." Understand, most parents of children who are in Generation Z, are not bad people. Most parents of Generation Z simply adhere to failed parenting strategies. Strategies such as: Being the child's best friend. Giving in to the child after they whine for a few moments. Doing everything for the child. Allowing older siblings to do everything for the child. Disallowing the child to suffer the consequences of poor decision...

A reader of   yesterday's article  asked me to elaborate on my punishment model, so here it is. Ask - Tell - Yell - Electric Fence  The only reasons children do anything is because either A ) you taught them to do it, or B ) you allow them to do it. Children instinctively seek to push limits. This is so that they can learn what is and is not acceptable. When they learn this, they feel more secure. Ask Ask the child to comply with your request. Use the word "please." After all, it is a parent's job to teach a child how to function socially. Good manners is a part of that. Always start with this step, unless life or limb is hanging in the balance. Do not ask the child more than once. Make sure the child heard the request. If a child refuses to comply, you must decide NOW what the next course of action  will be. If the request is of no major concern, then do it yourself or be satisfied that it will not be done. If the child needs to comply, then you must decide ...

Reading an article posted on Steven Crowder's Facebook page some time back about a couple who waited until marriage to have sex. The overwhelming number of the responses were positive. A handful were full of hate and vitriol. Those handful of comments were all by women... women who did not wait until marriage. These women all accused the author of the article of "being on a high horse" or demonstrating "judgmental tones." Of course, it was a case of the lady who doth protest too much , methinks. Liberal hypocrisy knows no bounds. And while the comments above may not have all been made by liberals, the mindset is more common on that side of the aisle. Of course, there is the occasional cuckservative who wants his daughter to grow up to be a strong, independent woman, or something similar. Most of these are just low intelligence folks who have been brainwashed by the media. Of course, that's not substantially different than the liberals, I suppose. But h...

In several different places over the past few months, I'll see a parent asking how to deal with a child who does x ( insert behavior here ). At the end of the day, this is a superbly simple question to answer. First You must realize that people are social beings. Humans are pack animals. When you realize this, you are 90% there. Second People follow leaders. They do not follow those without authority. If you want authority, you must assert it in no uncertain terms. Third If you are a leader, and want a desired behavior, keep in mind these maxims: - Reward desirable behavior. - Punish undesirable behavior. - If you do not punish behavior, it will be viewed as desirable. Do these things effectively, and you will always have success and be viewed as a great leader: - Communicate; especially what is and is not allowed and what is and is not expected. - Reward / punish fairly, not based on emotion. Do not punish based on anger. Do not fail to punish based on compassion. ...

It can be because dad has a louder voice... but that's not usually it. It's because the kids know mom will only nag them again (no real punishment there), but dad will likely spank them. Posted via Blogaway

So you prepare for a potential SHTF, but someone comes across that information and ridicules you and your ideas. How to handle this? First, you must understand some basics. SHTF situations, are not only plausible, but have a degree of likelihood. Hurricane Katrina, LA riots, etc. So there is logic in being prepared. Since there is logic in being prepared, then those who belittle being prepared are not thinking logically. Instead, they are thinking emotionally. Human children are known for letting their emotions get the better of them. Sadly, many grown women (and gamma males) have often faced no real consequences in life for their actions, and thusly fall into this category, as well. So, if someone is reacting emotionally (ridiculing your preparations), then the only logical means of handling the situation is to resort to treating that person as the child they are. Amused Mastery If you are new to this type of response, then please, dear reader, Google it. One of the best methods ...

Most people do not listen well, and this is no surprise to anyone over age 18. Sometimes, of particular annoyance, is a person not only not listening, but interjecting prior to the completion of the statement. However, it can be humorous when someone interjects so soon they miss the point altogether.  Generally speaking, someone who prematurely interrupts conversations like this to interject will be a liberal, Calvinist, feminist, someone arguing based on emotion, or someone who does not take a stand based on logic. Here are some situations that the author was either a part of, or privy to, or that were submitted by readers: [The rest of the statement will be put in brackets] Sales Success Situation - a trainee and an assistant manager were discussing sales statistics. Goal for promotion was a sales rate of 30%. Obviously, with any statistic, we are dealing with averages . Keep that in mind. Trainee:  So far, my averages [have been over 40%, and it only takes 30% to ge...

From a reader: You've written a fair amount about behavior topics and seem well read on the subject. In real interactions, though, what seem to be the most common psychological defense mechanisms that you see in day to day life? Great question. Projection & Cognitive dissonance Learn these two and you will spot 95% or more of psychological defense mechanisms in use.

Saw this recently and thought immediately that whoever crafted this has either never had children, or has never raised a socially adapted child. There's a huge difference between a swat on the bottom and hitting your child. A swat is never issued out of anger, it is only issued when the child does understand reason, cannot understand reason, or will not understand reason. Kinda like when you are a child and you touch a hot stove... you learn quickly not to do that again as pain is the most powerful motivator on the planet. Posted via Blogaway

From a reader: Why do you rail against antisocial behavior? I've often heard it said that's an indication of intelligence. Good question. I found a meme that gives the quote here. Let's dig in a bit, shall we? Intelligence The majority of antisocial people I've come across were more intelligent than "average." Not as smart as they thought they were, but definitely above "average." Now, the really intelligent people I've met were able to blend when they wanted to or needed to. Expectations Here's the "gotcha" moment. These slightly-above-average-intelligence antisocial people typically behave antisocially in social settings as a means of tying to obtain something.  Most commonly, they seek attention. In almost all other cases, they seek something gained only via winning at social interaction. In other words, they mix yellow and blue, and expect to get red . Gender The vast majority of females - from little girl...

If you get to read this, it means a prediction came true. In one of those rare instances, I ran across one of the 0.01% of the public that refuses to play well with anybody. My response: "You have got to be kidding me." I saw indicators of anti-social behavior, psychological projection, periodic mood swings (depression, anyone?), communication issues (even with those close to her), big ego, diabetic, jealousy, and to top it off: a Tier 4/5 female. All quite predictable , if you ask me. So, if I set this to post later (written Jan. 1, 2015), it means I came across proof of more than one of those "indicators" I mentioned above. CPW = Can't Play Well .

From a reader: "Hey, Usagi, I've read some of your stuff on your brother's divorce. I'm in about the same boat. Got any dating / woman advice for guys like us?" I do have some advice. Probably  the best summary ever is here . But I'll break it down into a weekly segment for you and others. By Swingset ... Item 10: Lastly, I leave you with this. It's a difficult lesson to be a man. It's a painful, self-sacrificing labor and part of the human condition to be a man. You must accept that much of your life and your ties to women rely on your honor and your good nature. Sadly, most of us choose our mates based on nothing more than a tiny dab of sexual experience and a lot of ignorance about human nature. The women you meet, fall in love with, screw, and hurt, are all human beings with complex pasts, desires and dreams. Treat each woman, no matter who she is, as if she is your best friend's girl. Give her respect, even if you don't choos...

From a reader: "Hey, Usagi, I've read some of your stuff on your brother's divorce. I'm in about the same boat. Got any dating / woman advice for guys like us?" I do have some advice. Probably  the best summary ever is here . But I'll break it down into a weekly segment for you and others. By Swingset ... Item 9: A woman's beauty is her worst enemy, and her only true servant. Be very afraid of a woman who has relied, or counted on her looks to survive or succeed - for when those looks or your attention to them wanes, she will self-destruct before your eyes. You will come home to find her gone, or on top of your best friend. Again, not to drive a point too fine, but stay away from the 10's. A stripper model does not live to enjoy a 50 year wedding anniversary, and she will not change your diapers when you're old. Believe it or not, that stuff really matters. You, like women, are driven by your nature. If you're always attracted to ...

From a reader: "Hey, Usagi, I've read some of your stuff on your brother's divorce. I'm in about the same boat. Got any dating / woman advice for guys like us?" I do have some advice. Probably  the best summary ever is here . But I'll break it down into a weekly segment for you and others. By Swingset ... Item 8: Get to know your prospective inlaws....even if you have no idea you're going to marry the girl you're banging. If you don't love them like they're your own parents, RUN. Seriously, it's that simple. Run. Look at their relationship - her mother and father's. Look at it hard, because that's you in 25 years....or some variation of it. Your woman will make sure of it, because she's hard wired to. .

From a reader: "Hey, Usagi, I've read some of your stuff on your brother's divorce. I'm in about the same boat. Got any dating / woman advice for guys like us?" I do have some advice. Probably  the best summary ever is here . But I'll break it down into a weekly segment for you and others. By Swingset ... Item 7: Women, contrary to another urban legend, are s***bags too. They will have you convinced, if you talk to them enough, that they are the masters of reason and emotion. Bulls***, fellas. They are contriving, maniacal masters of chaos and work feverishly against their own happiness sometimes. Nothing will disturb a woman so deeply to her core as true contentment. Some women shudder at the thought of a placid, pleasing life. It's a very rare thing, a woman at peace and comfortable with herself....so when you find one, say "I do" and keep her away from other women. Wanna see proof of this? Work along side alot of women. When one ...

From a reader: "Hey, Usagi, I've read some of your stuff on your brother's divorce. I'm in about the same boat. Got any dating / woman advice for guys like us?" I do have some advice. Probably  the best summary ever is here . But I'll break it down into a weekly segment for you and others. By Swingset ... Item 6: There is nothing a woman can sniff out like desperation. If you have even one tiny cell of creepy in you, she'll smell it all over you like a possum carcus in the sun. One of the lessons of adulthood is F***ING RELAX. Do it, for all our sakes. Don't chase women, for there is no need. Be a man, be yourself, have a good time and get your life in order, and the women will forever come to you. Believe this fellas.....nothing could be truer. If young swingset would have only known this... .

From a reader: "Hey, Usagi, I've read some of your stuff on your brother's divorce. I'm in about the same boat. Got any dating / woman advice for guys like us?" I do have some advice. Probably  the best summary ever is here . But I'll break it down into a weekly segment for you and others. By Swingset ... Item 5: Women, contrary to [some uban] legends, do not want sex that often...especially once the relationship cools off (normalizes). If they do crave the weenie all the time, they are messed up (see item #1). Women do not have testesterone pumping through their organs, and will not crave sex, at least not like you think they do. Get used to it, deal with it, and make your peace with the fact that a normal woman wants sex about 1/10th as much as you. Sadly, the sexaholic women are usually reliving some sort of childhood trauma, and sex gives them control over their neuroses about that past. See, women have sex for very different reasons than we ...

From a reader: "Hey, Usagi, I've read some of your stuff on your brother's divorce. I'm in about the same boat. Got any dating / woman advice for guys like us?" I do have some advice. Probably  the best summary ever is here . But I'll break it down into a weekly segment for you and others. By Swingset ... Item 4: Women, real women, do not want a boy. They want a man, so be one. Don't get dickhead haircuts, tribal tats, spinners for your ghey car, the latest trendy clothes or skin care products. These are the tools of vain boys, and a woman does not want these things from you even if she acts like she does. You may get some dates, you may get laid, you may even get married by being a boy.....but bet your @$$ that your woman will dream of a man (which is not you). .

From a reader: "Hey, Usagi, I've read some of your stuff on your brother's divorce. I'm in about the same boat. Got any dating / woman advice for guys like us?" I do have some advice. Probably  the best summary ever is here . But I'll break it down into a weekly segment for you and others. By Swingset ... Item 3: To attract women, you need but one thing....to be in charge. Not necessarily of the world or the building you work in, but in charge of your surroundings. You need to be in charge of whatever setting you and the womenz will be in. In any herd of animals, the females obey the alpha. You must be, no matter what the situation, the "guy". You might need to be the funny guy, or the cool guy, or the host, or the entertainer, or even the "taken" one, but you had better be the center of attention that day. To be this thing, you need some confidence, you need your shit in order, and you need some sort of talent that will put y...

According to a study, as reported by Forbes , internet trolls are, indeed, psychos. Something we all knew, but now the research is out. .