I had read something like this years ago; so I thought I should try it with my kids. I started off just trying to say one positive for each negative thing I said to them. (soon added my wife to the concept -- I'm slow, not stupid.)
Then I started trying to say 3 then 5 positive things about them. Never was perfect at it, never really became a set in stone thing (make list, say 1,2,3.., type) but it did change my approach to dealing with them and others.
I became less negative and saw they were more willing to listen to what I had to say because they knew I recognized the good and the bad.
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I had read something like this years ago; so I thought I should try it with my kids. I started off just trying to say one positive for each negative thing I said to them.
ReplyDelete(soon added my wife to the concept -- I'm slow, not stupid.)
Then I started trying to say 3 then 5 positive things about them.
Never was perfect at it, never really became a set in stone thing (make list, say 1,2,3.., type) but it did change my approach to dealing with them and others.
I became less negative and saw they were more willing to listen to what I had to say because they knew I recognized the good and the bad.
Thanks for the reminder to keep this up.
I blog often and I genuinely thank you for your information.
ReplyDeleteYour article has really peaked my interest. I will bookmark
your site and keep checking for new details
about once a week. I opted in for your RSS feed
too.
Bob - good points.
ReplyDeleteWhen teaching the martial arts, it is common practice to "sandwich" constructive criticism between two praises - for the very reason you mention.
Anon - thank you for reading. Your point ties in well here. Gotta blog about the good and the bad. I try to get a little of everything.