Two Common Misconceptions

This author has been turning over two familiar assumptions that circulate in Western culture until they harden into dogma. In particular, they are repeatedly asserted by contemporary feminist rhetoric and by sectors of modern dating culture that benefit from the confusion these assumptions create. They are often treated as settled truth, when in fact they are partial ideas that have been stretched far beyond their limits.

The assumptions are simple, and they are often deployed as moral cudgels rather than descriptive claims: 

1. Women communicate better than men. 
2. Women mature faster than men.

Both contain a kernel of truth. Both become misleading when that kernel is mistaken for the whole truth and nothing but the truth. In popular form, these ideas tend to morph into two claims that are flatly untrue: 

1. Men cannot communicate, or cannot communicate as well as women. 
2. Men never “catch up” to women in maturity.

A preliminary warning is in order. Readers invested in ideological narratives rather than observable behavior may find the following uncomfortable. Obsessive comparison of “maturity levels” is itself a juvenile habit. That language, nearly exclusive to prepubescent girls, largely disappears after childhood for a reason. Still, since the claims persist, they deserve a full examination rather than a dismissive shrug.

It is broadly true that girls, on average, develop verbal skills, mental cognition, and certain social behaviors linked to emotions earlier than boys during childhood and puberty. From an evolutionary perspective, this makes sense. Females who reached reproductive capability without the minimum mental, emotional, verbal, and physical capacity to care for offspring would not successfully pass on their genetics. Early maturation conferred survival value.

SCREEEEEEEEEECH of tires. 
Most research stops the story there, concluding that boys catch up in their late teens. That is where the conversation usually ends. What rarely receives attention is what happens after that point.

Based on long-term observation, men continue to develop mentally, emotionally, and verbally well into later adulthood, often into their 60s. Women, by contrast, tend to plateau much earlier. Somewhere between early and mid-teens, many reach a stable end-state in these domains, with only marginal development afterward. A common age associated by "Red Pill" outlets is 14. 

For clarity, this article refers to that plateau as “stuntedness,” not as an insult, but as a descriptive term. The term is used analytically, not morally, despite predictable attempts to frame it otherwise. It does not imply deficiency below social norms (which would more correctly be called "retardation"), nor does it suggest pathology. Rather, it describes a developmental ceiling that appears broadly consistent.

A practical illustration can be found in a common meme, frequently circulated to defend the claim of female communicative superiority. A woman claims men obviously can communicate because they do so constantly while gaming with friends. The male response is blunt: among men, people answer questions directly. When asked what is wrong, they do not reply with “nothing.”

That response, “nothing,” is not communication. It is an attention-seeking maneuver. Worse, it is ambiguous by design. The same nonverbal cues or vague phrases are routinely used to signal multiple, even contradictory, meanings. No amount of emotional sensitivity can decode a system in which identical signals point to different messages.

This is often defended as emotional sophistication, a claim heavily promoted in feminist discourse and modern relationship advice. The assertion is that a sufficiently mature partner should “pick up on the hints.” The flaw is structural. A signal that carries multiple meanings is not a hint. It is a trap.
Sun Tzu captured this dynamic centuries ago in The Art of War, a text notably absent from most modern relationship advice: 
“All warfare is based on deception.” 

When ambiguity is knowingly employed, the goal is not understanding. It is conflict. Frequently, it is drama-seeking conflict. 

A genuinely mature individual does not seek validation through confusion, does not justify poor communication with emotional theatrics, and does not require others to perform mental gymnastics to maintain peace. Maturity allows logic to override impulse and favors clear, direct verbal expression when something is wrong.

In summary, girls do tend to reach a baseline level of mental, verbal, and emotional maturity earlier than boys. This fact is frequently used to claim permanent female superiority, particularly by ideological feminists and by those seeking leverage in long-term pair bonding. That baseline is sufficient for basic social and parental functioning. Boys catch up by their late teens, and then continue developing across decades, long after the vast majority of women have leveled off.

As with any broad pattern, exceptions exist. They are often elevated and paraded as counterexamples, especially by those whose personal incentives depend on denying the pattern. They always do. But exceptions do not erase the pattern itself. Indeed, exceptions prove the rule. 

What say you?