A Man's Man

"Attachment Parenting" - "Momma's Boys" - Where have all the men gone?


Rarely anymore do you hear a person called a "man's man." Our society has been overly feminized, and good responsible behavior has been replaced with bowing to the demands of a few select groups.

This was brought to my attention a while back: I was researching Attachment Parenting - which, as we all know, is more about attachment and not at all about parenting - and on an AP website, I found something fascinating. The site had a whole section dealing with how attachment parents should deal with the "inevitable" (their words, not mine!) claims that people would call their sons "momma's boy" or similar. They had a whole section on it!

For the prep for this article, I went back to that same website, and that part has been taken down. However, the segments in their forums live on. Of course, every time a mother (people posting on these forums are moms the vast majority of the time) posts to the forum about how they feel bad because somebody called their son a "momma's boy" or otherwise scrutinizes the over-attachment that these people are known for, then the other women in the forum come to her aid - spewing BS about how these comments need to be ignored, and the like.

I think there are two things at work here:

1. Society no longer values positive masculine role-models
Over-feminization. Liberalism. Socialism. These things seek to destroy that which is a threat to them. And the single biggest threat is a man who can take care of his own, and who can think for himself.

I saw a "joke" on facebook the other day about how "heroes" have changed over the years, and it is so very true. George Clooney and Collin Farrell are the types after which our "heroes" are portrayed in popular culture. Yet these men pale so much in comparison to the likes of Clint Eastwood and John Wayne.

Where have all the men gone?

Popular culture shares its role in society with the breakdown of the powerful male role-model. Now first understand - there is not a thing wrong with a strong female role model. However, see a movie, TV, or any form of entertainment, and the father is always cast as a bumbling fool. The man is always looked on as the idiot - about to FUBAR something.

In the workplace - things are much more sinister. Men now get accused of things like sexual harassment, which although is a needed protection, is too often used to neuter the man in the workplace. And what about the day in time when a man could work and bring home enough for the family to live on? Families like that are few and far between these days.

Look anywhere, and you see indications of women who want sensitive men, caring men, etc. These are all just fronts to the real scheme: to make women want men who are less masculine and more feminine. And women who enjoy and appreciate masculine men are reviled as "sluts" or worse: because their taste in men is for a masculine sort, they become confused by the influence of the world around them, and wind up with serious psychological problems because they think their own tastes are not the norm, and they try to "correct" their appetite. 

But I have a secret for you:

2. Men long to be men, and women long for men to be men
It has been this way for a long time. If you believe in God as the author of the Universe, you would say that God made men and women this way. If you are a person who believes in evolution as the origin of species: then you think we evolved that way. I think evolution-as-originists are full of bunk, but we come to the same conclusion: whether we evolved to this state, or God made us this way, the fact is, we are this way.

Men; despite society's best efforts to control their behavior through propaganda, burdensome workplace rules, and even laws; still yearn to be men. There is a desire to be the head of his own household, to be a provider and protector. That desire is an innate part of us.

I feel so very sorry for men like this: they must restrain, and might never know, the joy and satisfaction of being a man. A real man.

Women, too, want men to be men. All too often, you hear a woman (often in her 30's after a divorce) who is simply too sick of trying to find a masculine man to no avail, "give up." She will pronounce that she is "through" trying to find happiness with a man.

I feel so sorry for women like this: they have an innate desire to love a man for being a man, yet there are so very few from which to choose.

But I have another secret for you:

It doesn't have to be this way:


Men: Choose this day to be a man. In all you say and do. 


Women: Encourage men in your life to be men. In all they say and do.


"Attachment Parents:" For the love of all that which is Holy - STOP NOW! You do not need to raise another woman who is destined for psychotherapy, or another man who is destined for a lifetime of neutered existence.


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