This thought came to me as I overheard a woman speaking about why she is divorcing her husband. She claims he was physically abusive. This woman has severe physical handicaps. I see their family frequently, and she's never had injuries. If he were ever abusive towards her, she would likely die from the injuries, she is so frail.
The husband is extremely caring and patient. And he puts up with too much of her shit... which is why she now despises him.
But as I listened to her lie to other people - she won't claim these things around those of us who know better - it dawned on me...
If you are a woman who is divorcing her husband, and you claim physical abuse, then is he (or did he) serve time in jail for it?
If not, then you are lying.
People who assault other people go to jail. It is just that simple. If you haven't called the police, then you will understand why any rational person will not believe your fantasy tales about physical harm. And you'll get mad because they call you on your bullshit.