RECCE ROOM

In reference to this situation , today is the first business day at the end of the entire divorce in question. What is meant here is that all alimony and child support is paid. The then-minor child is now age 18, and has graduated high school (last Friday evening). This is important because according to Tennessee law, that satisfies the requirements to end the wealth redistribution alimony and child support.  People ask why so many posts about men's rights?  1. Men are people, too, and deserve basic human treatment.  2. Our system is HEAVILY skewed against the men.  3. There are not many people singing the song of men's rights, and we need more.  Here are the numbers behind it: This divorce was filed in 2012.  "Child Support" paid since then: $147,000 "Alimony" paid since then: $50,000 Total wealth redistribution: $197,000.  And that doesn't include the over $200,000 paid to the attorneys in this case!   Real Total: $397,000.  The man ...

A reader writes in: "You have been married so long, but you do not advise men to get married? Make it make sense!" Here’s the truth: this author has been married 27+ years at the time of this post. One more fact matters: between 1997 and 2002, this author attended many weddings. And yet, only one of those marriages is still intact—and this post comes from the husband in that singular anomaly. Firsthand experience shows how many marriages do not work...  Statistics show the most likely outcome in marriage is divorce: 75%+++ Imagine paying for a skydive and the worker saying, “Hey, 75% or more of the parachutes do not open.” Would anyone do it? Of course not. Insane. The fact that one of the few parachutes actually works proves only that it’s possible—not that it should be tried. Looking back at all the weddings attended from 1997–2002, this remains the only one still intact. This is a scream from the rooftops: “Don’t go skydiving—the parachutes do not work! This was the only ...

How to Fix Divorce: And, since Blogger does Blogger things (like arbitrarily deleting photos for unknown reasons), here is the text: Divorce reform:  - eliminate no fault divorce  - make all custody default 50/50 with exceptions only for extraordinary circumstances.  - eliminate child support  - eliminate alimony  - make paternity testing at birth mandatory  - make prenups default

This post to serve as an update on a post that is over 10 years old. The Rifleman has a strong memory (from time to time). On that post, a reader asked, "Any word? How did the remand hearing go?" For reasons that are not pertinent to this post, the Rifleman did not neglect to answer this question, but instead, postponed the answer until a more appropriate time. This time has come.  In the remand, it is important to first state a particular fact: The judge that issued the ruling, Tom Gray, retired shortly after his errant ruling. As a matter of fact, four of his last five rulings (the author's brother's ruling being one of these) were overturned in appellate courts. Divorce ruling appeal successful . In a move that still strikes this author as exceptionally odd, Gray  requested to be the judge on the remand hearing. Brother's lawyer argued that it is extremely peculiar to allow a civilian to hear a divorce remand, and the Sumner county Court agreed, and the sittin...

All Alimony is theft.  All child support is theft.  You cannot change my mind. 

Obituary for former judge, Tom Gray .  Reason this obituary is read with great pleasure.  More reading, much has to do with the unjust judge . 

This gem on social media. Clearly, there are still people out there that believe most divorces are because men cheat.  It has been said before, and it is worth saying again: 80% of divorces  are initiated by the woman. Of the remaining 20%, 80% of those are initiated by a man who was cheated on. That's 96% of the time, the divorce is either instigated by, or the fault of, the wife. Of the top 9 reasons  women list for filing for divorce, a cheating husband is one of the reasons listed. Most sources put cheating husband at less than 10% of divorces.  Add in abuse, and the total that are the man's fault are about 12% - 15% of all divorces . To correct the meme above, one might correctly say that a farm wife just doesn't have the time to imagine a reason to go to an attorney and get a divorce. 

Current (and soon to be former) Tennessee house speaker, Glen Casada,  can no longer afford $4000 per month in alimony.  How about this, even $1 per month in alimony is theft.  Eliminate it all.  If she doesn't wanna be married to him, that's fine. But that also means she gives up the option to be married to his lifestyle.  Life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness, bitches!  

As the Rifleman has explained before, marriage, as defined  by the modern US legal system, and marriage as defined by the Bible, are two totally separate entities. This guy gets it . From his article: ... marriage is no longer a real family model. Legally speaking, marriage is now almost entirely symbolic, an optional facade we place over our real family model, the child support system.  Since legal marriage is a matter of aesthetics, there is a certain logic to only constructing the facade if the aesthetics are right. What do you think?

A woman files for divorce (they do over 75% of the time). But later, she drops the suit, saying she wants to reconcile.  How to proceed? Recall this article . THERE IS NO GOING BACK! The minute a person files divorce against you, they have no desire to get back together, I don't care what they say. They want to hurt you and they want to use the court system to do it. Any attempt at amicability should be viewed with extreme suspicion. Expect anything you say or do to be used against you. Expect them to lie about you in court. If they drop suit, you should counter-file. Its that simple.  They dropped the nuclear bomb, not you.  It's just your job to finish the job. And, if you're a pastor, it has nothing to do with not having your house in order.  Marriage as defined by the modern US legal system and marriage as defined by the Bible are two totally separate entities.

Recently saw some drama on social media about a pastor who was getting a divorce. The vast majority of the replies were support for this pastor, because pastors are no different than ordinary people. However, there were some who were holding this pastor to a standard that, frankly, is not possible to keep in modern America. So here are some quick hitters. Marriage as defined by the modern US legal system and marriage as defined by the Bible are two totally separate entities. According to the US legal system, any person can divorce their spouse, whether or not the spouse wants to be divorced. When a man gets custody of the kids, it's an indicator that there's something major wrong with the woman. Women get custody of the vast majority of the time. If you have to heavily edit a photo to prove a point, then it's an indicator that your point is completely invalid, and you know it. Divorce is a communicable disease among women. If a happily married woman spends time around ...

Some time back, one of my wife's friends filed for divorce. As soon as this happened, I immediately instructed my wife to distance herself from that friend. Some of the details of the situation provide some good learning tools, so here they are. First, good friend of mine implicated that this particular woman was filing for divorce, in part, due to abuse. Now, I love my friend dearly, but he is not well versed in social interaction, intuitiveness, and reading between lines. He tends to take people at face value - which can be a good or bad thing, depending on the face. Anyone with a basic knowledge of This Woman's situation knew that it would be impossible for her husband to have been abusive. I said as much. My friend and I agreed to disagree. However, it came out later that the abuse charge was totally false. Second, you will notice that I instructed my wife to stay away from this woman. I did not ask my wife to stay away from her. I did not suggest that my wife stay away f...

One of the most destructive influences on modern society  is divorce . The combination of no-fault divorce, antiquated alimony and child support laws, and over-reaching family courts has turned divorce into a multibillion-dollar industry. This industry destroys everything in its path, and only benefits divorce attorneys and judges. Depending on your source, anywhere between 65% and 94% of all US marriages will ultimately  end in divorce. Also, depending on your sources, women initiate between 70% and 90% of all divorces. According to the statistics at the link above, and most other online sources, women fare very poorly in a divorce from a financial standpoint. This despite the fact that women are often awarded half or more of the man's income and assets. So why do women initiate divorce? Although many women claim abuse, the actual figures are that less than 10% of divorces end because of abuse wherein the man was convicted of an assault related crime. Although many women cl...

This one laments on social media that her ex is to marry a "20-something blonde," less than two years after their divorce.  Some thoughts: You asked for this. Women initiate 75% of divorces.  You did. He is an idiot. I'll agree, but not for the same reason.  He's an idiot because he got married again. You're jealous #1 You've hit the wall, and you know it.  Being 40 didn't help. Gaining 50+ pounds since age 35 didn't help.  Looking 10 years older in the past 2 years didn't help. You're jealous #2  He's happy and you aren't. You're jealous #3  He has and you have not. How is that minimum wage job working out for you? It didn't turn out like you wanted. Divorce is not a life improvement for anyone, but it takes a harder toll on women. Yet, women engage in all sorts of divorce porn - the pedestalizing of divorce.  You wanted to hurt him - and make no mistake, you did hurt him - you just hurt yourself worse.  Div...

A female I knew from high school puts this on social media: Lord let me get through tomorrow and then I'm good #wouldhavebeen18 #anniversarynot Let's make sure we are all in the clear here... - You asked for the divorce, not your ex. (Women initiate the divorce 75% of the time or more) - You now work in a retail establishment, making just above minimum wage, and you make sure to complain about that at every turn. (Nearly 50% of divorced women fall into poverty) - Divorce should be a source of shame, not attention-whoring. (But then, a lot of things   used to be shameful and aren't any more) Posted via Blogaway

A few days ago, my pastor uploaded a video (he does that most days) to Facebook. The topic was the number one problem in marriages today.   Here's a link  to his page so you can go see the video for yourself. I agree with Pastor Locke's assessment. And I'll take it a step further. Here's a look at the most prevalent reasons why we have so much divorce today. Popularity Divorce today is popular. People are herd animals. We go the way the herd is going. Television, movies, and social media glamorize divorce and single motherhood. Everybody else is getting one, so Jane wants a divorce, too. Not too long ago, divorce had an air of shame about it. You didn't broadcast that you got divorced. And it certainly wasn't celebrated. Easy One of the easiest contracts to enforce in America is the financial contract of divorce. Other contracts bear a burden of proof, but not divorce. In a divorce, either party can terminate the contract and set off a chain of events wher...

Was eating supper some time back. The restaurant had few patrons, and at the moment, the servers were rolling silverware into the napkins. They were chatting amongst themselves, and I got to overhear this gem... One server, a bit older than the others (early to mid 30's?), was detailing how her ex-husband wanted to see their daughter. The server exclaimed that she would be happy to allow the visitation, the moment he caught up on his 11 years of back child support. One problem - no state allows a parent to withhold visitation on the basis of unpaid child support. What she was doing was illegal. In another place, in another time, I'd have said she was moderately attractive... particularly given her age. And that might be a contributing factor as to why she can hold such anti-social (read: illegal) views and still be considered by the opposite sex. Sure as hell isn't because she has anything of value to offer in a relationship.

The unjust Judge got shot down by the court of appeals. Then he makes a motion to hear the remand. EVEN THOUGH HE IS RETIRED ! Why on Earth would a retired judge want to come back and hear a remand? Unless he had it in for one of the parties. And if that was the case, then his unfair judgments would have been overturned in the appeals court. Oh, wait... they were! Nevertheless, he gets shot down in his motion to hear the remand. I suggest that if Judge Tom Gray truly wanted to hear more about this case, he wouldn't have fallen asleep during the trial the first time! .

My brother's appeal is in the books. This means it, too is public information . Link to the Findings .  Link to the voice recording of the actual voice recording of the proceedings.  According to the brief, there were four main points of contention: 1. Whether the trial court erred in the parenting plan. 2. Whether the trial court erred in awarding alimony in solido (attorney's fees). 3. Whether the trial court erred in awarding rehabilitative alimony for five years. 4. Whether the trial court erred in failing to make a finding that the mother was intentionally underemployed. Also at stake was the mother's (read: Dependopotamus') request for attorney's fees for the appeal. If my brother's points all failed, then surely she would be awarded attorney's fees for the appeal - which would have been financially disastrous. Here is a brief summary of the findings: 1. Whether the trial court erred in the parenting plan.  Per the findings: Although Fat...

This article claims that the statistics we've been fed for years on marriage or divorce are fabricated and/or misleading. Interesting points. .