From Survival to Control: Three Turning Points - Part 1
The Day I Realized I Could Fight Without Hurting People I grew up in a violent household. There was not violence every day, but there was more than there should have been. No, it wasn't spanking - though spanking did happen. There was also true violence. Something that should never be aimed at a child from their parent or parents. But, it was aimed at my siblings and myself. There are moments in life where something shifts, and you know it’s not going back. This story is about one of those moments. The Story I was about 19 or so, still living at home and attending college. My girlfriend at the time (now my wife) was there with us. The family was doing something simple: folding and putting away laundry. There was a stack of towels that needed to go upstairs. My mother asked my younger sister to take them. My sister asked a reasonable question - how many towels should go in each of the two bathrooms upstairs? That question was taken as defiance. The situation escalated instantly. ...