When I was an early teen, there was an argument at my house about duties. My mom wanted all three of us children to perform more of the housework. At the time, my brother and I performed most of the housework, and she made the very fair request that my sister become more involved. However, my mom was rarely at home to monitor whether the duties would be performed. Also and however, I performed 3/4 of the work already, and yet she was asking for more from me. I asked her how she planned to monitor when she was never home. Literally - she would be gone for weeks at a time. My mom became very defensive at this, as one could imagine. After the argument was over, my dad and I were sitting in the room, and he said something to me that I remember to this day: "you are being awfully hard on your mother." That rang true... but there was something else: I wasn't being any harder on her than she had been on me. --------------------------------------------------------------...