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In a recent post , we discussed how to handle when false allegations are thrown your way. Well, a reader wrote in and asked how to tell when a liar has been confronted, and when an honest person has been falsely accused of lying. And that is a good topic!  An honest person, when falsely accused of lying, will react a certain way . Anger, frustration, and confusion are all common responses, while some might feel deeply hurt or betrayed by those who accused them. Meanwhile, a pathological liar will react a different way .  They may try to deflect blame or shift responsibility onto others. They may also try to deceive others to avoid being caught or held accountable for their behavior. The pathological liar may also resort to gaslighting . Gaslighting, of course , is  the act or practice of grossly misleading someone, especially for one’s own advantage. Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation and type of abuse that makes a person question their own reasoning and ...

Liars lie. We all know that. We also know the grass is green and the sky is blue. What to do though, when the liars falsely claim that a truthful person has lied? Ah, now this deserves a post. And this has happened to the Rifleman not once, but twice in recent months, hence the motivation to add here.  First, we must understand the motivation of the false allegation.  When a person falsely accuses another of lying, a quick online search yields that the most common reason is faulty communication, and that is this author's most common observation, as well. Of course, most polite people will ask questions or gain clarification first before lobbing an accusation of lying.  When faulty communication is not the issue, then a few other possibilities rise to the surface:  Pre-existing distrust Psychological projection: they are lying about something, so they accuse you.   They are trying to cover for some shortcoming, etc.  Sound familiar? If you have read muc...