Proper motivations
From an attachment parenting website:
While I agree with the notion of not instilling fear, these attachment parenting bozos take the idea to extremes. They go out of their way to avoid their child from ever feeling fear. And that is not healthy.
Fear and pain are the two most powerful motivators out there. For a mind that is not fully developed, these basic instincts can serve as the only possible motivators in many instances.
My brother and I were talking of this a few days ago. The subject came up when we witnessed a young boy on a small bicycle. The boy kept wanting to ride out into the street. The boy's father told him a couple of times not to ride out into the street, and cited the danger of getting struck by a car.
The child waited until he thought dad wasn't looking, then rode out into the street a 3rd or 4th time - on purpose and in full rebellion. Dad saw immediately, pulled the child off the street and to a safe place, then proceeded to swat the boy's rear-end a couple of times.
The boy wailed and made a scene, and in two minutes was perfectly fine.
My brother and I remarked that an attachment parent would not spank, nor would they tell the child about the dangers of getting struck by the automobile, as that might lead to fear. My soon-to-be-ex-sister-in-law subscribes to these "techniques" and is that way. My brother has to do a lot of damage control.
What these attachment parents fail to realize is that getting struck by a car causes a lot more permanent problems than that simple spanking ever did.
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- Instilling fear in children serves no purpose and creates feelings of shame and humiliation. Fear has been shown to lead to an increased risk of future antisocial behavior including crime and substance abuse
- Studies show that spanking and other physical discipline techniques can create ongoing behavioral and emotional problems
While I agree with the notion of not instilling fear, these attachment parenting bozos take the idea to extremes. They go out of their way to avoid their child from ever feeling fear. And that is not healthy.
Fear and pain are the two most powerful motivators out there. For a mind that is not fully developed, these basic instincts can serve as the only possible motivators in many instances.
My brother and I were talking of this a few days ago. The subject came up when we witnessed a young boy on a small bicycle. The boy kept wanting to ride out into the street. The boy's father told him a couple of times not to ride out into the street, and cited the danger of getting struck by a car.
The child waited until he thought dad wasn't looking, then rode out into the street a 3rd or 4th time - on purpose and in full rebellion. Dad saw immediately, pulled the child off the street and to a safe place, then proceeded to swat the boy's rear-end a couple of times.
The boy wailed and made a scene, and in two minutes was perfectly fine.
My brother and I remarked that an attachment parent would not spank, nor would they tell the child about the dangers of getting struck by the automobile, as that might lead to fear. My soon-to-be-ex-sister-in-law subscribes to these "techniques" and is that way. My brother has to do a lot of damage control.
What these attachment parents fail to realize is that getting struck by a car causes a lot more permanent problems than that simple spanking ever did.
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