Marriage Isn’t Love, It’s a Gamble
"You have been married so long, but you do not advise men to get married? Make it make sense!"
Here’s the truth: this author has been married 27+ years at the time of this post. One more fact matters: between 1997 and 2002, this author attended many weddings. And yet, only one of those marriages is still intact—and this post comes from the husband in that singular anomaly.
Firsthand experience shows how many marriages do not work...
Firsthand experience shows how many marriages do not work...
Statistics show the most likely outcome in marriage is divorce: 75%+++
Imagine paying for a skydive and the worker saying, “Hey, 75% or more of the parachutes do not open.” Would anyone do it? Of course not. Insane. The fact that one of the few parachutes actually works proves only that it’s possible—not that it should be tried. Looking back at all the weddings attended from 1997–2002, this remains the only one still intact. This is a scream from the rooftops: “Don’t go skydiving—the parachutes do not work! This was the only one that did. The odds are stacked against you!!!”
Fact: If you choose to get married, YOU will get divorced, whether you want to or not; even and especially if you think you found the exception. Your prenup won't work. You will be taken to the cleaners.
Having seen the wreckage, this isn’t theory—it’s the truth: the odds are stacked terribly against a man. A marriage surviving is not a recommendation for others—it’s a statistical anomaly, a fluke in a system rigged for failure.
In other words, this experience proves success is possible, not probable. That distinction is crucial: too many men hear, “It worked for him, it’ll work for me,” and ignore the structural risks seen firsthand.
Imagine paying for a skydive and the worker saying, “Hey, 75% or more of the parachutes do not open.” Would anyone do it? Of course not. Insane. The fact that one of the few parachutes actually works proves only that it’s possible—not that it should be tried. Looking back at all the weddings attended from 1997–2002, this remains the only one still intact. This is a scream from the rooftops: “Don’t go skydiving—the parachutes do not work! This was the only one that did. The odds are stacked against you!!!”
Fact: If you choose to get married, YOU will get divorced, whether you want to or not; even and especially if you think you found the exception. Your prenup won't work. You will be taken to the cleaners.
Having seen the wreckage, this isn’t theory—it’s the truth: the odds are stacked terribly against a man. A marriage surviving is not a recommendation for others—it’s a statistical anomaly, a fluke in a system rigged for failure.
In other words, this experience proves success is possible, not probable. That distinction is crucial: too many men hear, “It worked for him, it’ll work for me,” and ignore the structural risks seen firsthand.
I have been married for over 33 years. But this is my second marriage. My first one was to my high school sweetheart, that ended after 11 years because my ex wanted out. But she did accept the over 137,000 dollars that I paid in child support over the next 17.5 years.
ReplyDeleteThat is right, she kicked me to the curb after my youngest of 3 kids turned 6 months.
I would remains single if I had it to do over again.